The Comparison Trap

Do you ever feel stuck? In your personal growth? In your motherhood journey? In your business? Yeah, I thought so, me too!

Sometimes we need to know what stops us from moving forward before we can actually take that step forward. I’ll share a struggle I have but since being able to identify it, I can stop it before I go down the black rabbit hole and decide everything I’m doing isn’t worth it, and I give up

So what is it you ask? The comparison trap. Anyone else relates?

I have to admit, this one is hard for me. I am incredibly driven, and I want to succeed so badly! Sometimes, that can backfire on me if I get caught in the comparison trap. I don’t know about you, but I spend way too much time there. Many times, I don’t even realize that I’m comparing myself to others until it’s too late. Before I know it, I’m left discouraged and drained, especially in the social media world. 

So how do we avoid comparison’s crippling curse?

We slow down and shift our perspective. Because a large part of my business is done online, I am constantly on social media. I am bombarded daily with everyone else’s wins, successes, and achievements. It’s a rare occurrence to see other people in my field talk about their struggles, even though, when I stop and think about it, I know they exist. So when I’m feeling the walls of comparison closing in, I turn it off.

• I put my phone away.

• I spend time with my husband.

• I go outside and play with my kids.

• I call a close friend.

These things remind me that both my value and my worth are not based on my performance or on how others perceive me. And not to mention, the quickest way to kill comparison is being grateful for everything that you have right here, right now. 

How can you shift your perception and experience gratefulness today?